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Review 5 Stars: 'It's a valuable read for any couple wishing to make a go of things as far as I can see. It's frank, honest and in your face. Its witty, funny, tragic and sad all on one page. Very courageous of them to put it all out there. I saw some of myself in both Stephen and Rebecca. Recommend it to anybody wishing to deepen their relationship with themselves and their chosen partner.'
Welcome.
On this website you will find information that will help you improve your marriage. You may want a happy marriage or a successful marriage; or it may be that you need help to turn things around. I have put together a summary of some of the tips on marriage that are contained in my book, One Shoe Over The Fence.
The most fundamental things you can do are outlined on the first steps page of this site and in the free sample chapters. Please read them and apply the guidelines - they work.
The strategies are based on advice from the very best researchers in the field of relationships - Harville Hendrix and John Gottman. If your marriage is in good shape you will probably be following their advice and it may just confirm or clarify. If you are not doing well they will help you set the most solid of platforms for your relationship. I think everyone should have access to this information so once you have read please distribute it freely.
There is also information for couples who are brave enough to want to have a fabulous relationship. Not just OK or good enough but startling. A relationship that is right at the centre of your world. Not because it should be there but because that is where you want to be.
Wanting to have a stunning relationship is a brave thing, especially if that is far from where you are today. However I know from my own experience that if you start with the fundamentals and build from a solid base that the results will come.
On this website you will find information that will help you improve your marriage. You may want a happy marriage or a successful marriage; or it may be that you need help to turn things around. I have put together a summary of some of the tips on marriage that are contained in my book, One Shoe Over The Fence.
The most fundamental things you can do are outlined on the first steps page of this site and in the free sample chapters. Please read them and apply the guidelines - they work.
The strategies are based on advice from the very best researchers in the field of relationships - Harville Hendrix and John Gottman. If your marriage is in good shape you will probably be following their advice and it may just confirm or clarify. If you are not doing well they will help you set the most solid of platforms for your relationship. I think everyone should have access to this information so once you have read please distribute it freely.
There is also information for couples who are brave enough to want to have a fabulous relationship. Not just OK or good enough but startling. A relationship that is right at the centre of your world. Not because it should be there but because that is where you want to be.
Wanting to have a stunning relationship is a brave thing, especially if that is far from where you are today. However I know from my own experience that if you start with the fundamentals and build from a solid base that the results will come.
How it began
Rebecca snatched my shoe and flung it over the fence. ‘Get out,’ she screamed, ‘leave now!’
This was our rock bottom moment. The full story is available in the free sample chapters which you can download here. It contains the introduction and five chapters.
Four years later after much research and a lot of work we arrived at a happy place. How we did it is all outlined in One Shoe.
I picked up some clues along the way but still have a long way to go. I hope what I've learnt can help you avoid making the same mistakes and ease your path just a little.
I hope you find the information on this site useful and please drop me a line and tell me how you got on.
Good luck
Stephen
Rebecca snatched my shoe and flung it over the fence. ‘Get out,’ she screamed, ‘leave now!’
This was our rock bottom moment. The full story is available in the free sample chapters which you can download here. It contains the introduction and five chapters.
Four years later after much research and a lot of work we arrived at a happy place. How we did it is all outlined in One Shoe.
I picked up some clues along the way but still have a long way to go. I hope what I've learnt can help you avoid making the same mistakes and ease your path just a little.
I hope you find the information on this site useful and please drop me a line and tell me how you got on.
Good luck
Stephen
You got to laugh. Being in a relationship can be hard work; and trying to rescue a faltering one can be exhausting. So you have to find the humour - and there's plenty.
‘Unfortunately there is one big flaw in your approach to this issue.’ I looked for the answer in her eyes. When she was sure I didn’t get it she spelt it out.
‘You’re thinking like a male.’ She smiled, ‘I’ve warned you about this before.’
I looked in the mirror, pulled in my gut, broadened my chest and focused my gaze. What about the jowls? Nothing helped. I decided to call them life experience. They’d be endearing imperfections in my tableau of male beauty.
‘Hey Romeo, you know what women do find attractive.’
‘um, err maybe, well not exactly.’
‘A clean kitchen. A man who could clear the table and get the lunch dishes done may find that he does not need to look further afield for appreciation.’
